19th October 2010 - Appreciation

Recently facing a lil few sad moments, a friend of mine posted this on my FaceBook (pte msg):

*Random*

Between You and Justin Tan

Justin Tan October 20 at 12:10am Report


Hi Eve,

I drafted this a few days ago but never got a chance to finish it when I knew you had some issues with ur relationship back then. I hope u use this time as an opportunity to plow ur anger and energy into something positive.


People make mistakes. Sometimes very serious ones. As often as not, the mistakes arent deliberate or personal. Sometimes people just dont know what they are doing. This means that if, in the past, people have behaved badly towards you, it wasnt necessarily because they meant to be horrid, but because they were as navie, as foolish, as human as the rest of us. They made mistakes in the way they brought you up or finished a relationship with you or whatever, not because they wanted to do it that way, but because they didnt know any different.

If you want to, you can let go of any feelings of resentment, of regret, of anger. You can accept that you are a fabulous human being because of all the bad things that have happened to you, not in spite of them. What is done is done and you need to just get on with things. Dont use the label 'good' and 'bad', but it is how we let it affect us that is the real 'bad'. You could let all these things get you down, fizzle away internally like some emotional acid making you ill and resentful and stuck. But you will let them go, embrace them as character forming and in general as positive rather then nagative.

For you, I believed it was essential, if you wanted more out of your life, to embrace all the bad things as being an important part of you and to move on. In fact I wanted them to fuel me into my future, to become positive to such extent that you couldnt imagine being yourself without them. Now, if given the choice, I believed you wouldnt change a thing.

I think the change occurred once you realized that even if you could get infront of all the people who had 'done you wrong', there would still be nothing they could do. You could shout at them, berate them, rant at them, but there would be nothing they could do to make amends or put things right. They too would have to accpet that what's done is done. There is no going back, only forwards. Motto that always used for life - keep moving forward.


-Justin-

Seriously how nice can a friend be writing such an essay to cheer me up, giving me tons of positive cells (like my Big Boss, Small Boss and Sally)


PS:: I felt so very blessed with peeps around me, the things I have, the family I am in, the company I'm working for and the ♥ I've got from so many of you!!! I lub it so very much and I treasure...